A Guy’s Guide to Speed Dating

So, you have taken the plunge and decided that speed dating is the way to meet a woman. The bar scene was a bust and online dating sites just didn’t give you that face to face connection that you were looking for. Now, as you prepare to “date” ten to fifteen women in just one night, you are probably wondering how you can, in a matter of about ten minutes, determine if the woman before you has long term potential.

Well, it is easier than it sounds and by asking a few pointed questions you can decide if the woman sitting across from you is the girl of your dreams.

Why did your last relationship end?

This can tell you a lot about a girl. If she left the relationship because he was abusive or cheated on her it shows that she is strong. She won’t be pushed around. That’s a good thing.

However, if she says he didn’t buy her gifts or they didn’t go out to fancy restaurants enough, it could be a tip off that she is one high maintenance gal.

Listen carefully to her answers and read between the lines.

Have you ever been married or do you want to get married?

If you are looking for a girl who is marriage material, it is good to see if her head is in the right place and is speed dating you have to move fast and ask more pointed questions to see if she is right for you. If she starts blasting marriage the moment that you ask, then she may not be the right one.

On the other hand, if she acts as if she is desperate to get married, well, that isn’t so great either. Dating sites are full of women (and men) who want nothing more than to get married.

If she responds that she would like to find a partner, someone to share her life with, she might be a good choice.

Do you want (or have) children?

Don’t shy away from this question, remember, this is speed dating. You are checking to see if you share similar values – and you have a very short time in which to do your evaluations. Of course, if she wants kids and you don’t, or vice versa, then the two of you probably aren’t a great match.

If she has kids, seriously consider if you can handle dealing with another man’s kids. Also, watch how she responds when you ask about them. If you can see the love that she has for them, the devotion, that is usually a good thing.

What are your hobbies and interests?

This is a no-brainer. You need to see if the two of you share any common interests or hobbies. Ask what she does for fun. The advantage here as opposed to dating sites is that you can see the passion in her face when she talks about something that is very meaningful to her. Don’t just listen, watch.

What are the things that you are most proud of in your life?

Ah, a question of substance. But watch the speed dating rules because you could wind up talking extensively on this one topic. See where her priorities lie. Is she proud of her children, her intellect, her creativity? Those are intrinsic things, very nice.

But if she is proud of her shiny car or big house or bracelet with a gazillion diamonds, it is probably best that you drop this gal like a hot rock. She’s high maintenance, brother, and unless you want to spend your entire paycheck on her expensive tastes, you best move on.

If I made you angry, how would you react?
Would she clam up? Would she throw things and yell? Would she try to talk about it? The response to this question will reveal a lot about the woman you are talking to. Listen to what she says and put yourself in that place with her. Is that where you want to me? Or will you wind up a casualty of her wrath?

If you didn’t get far with the dating sites and have decided to go with speed dating, you will probably be pleasantly surprised. Just assemble your list prior to arriving at the venue and be ready to fire the questions, evaluate the answers and find a prize.